“There is no real ending. It’s just the place where you stop the story.”

― Frank Herbert

Friday, March 7, 2014

First rooster just crowed.

It's just about five thirty in the morning.  I went to bed around midnight and got up at four when the dogs woke me up.  Light snow coming down outside but it's not sticking.

The first rooster just crowed, and that set the others off. They'll go on for another five minutes or so then it will be quiet again. If I had any close neighbors, they'd surely complain about it. I live way out in the woods so I don't have to put up with other people trying to force their values, views, or "wants" on me. Living in close proximity to other humans means endless aggravation and trouble.  If anyone out there is thinking of buying themselves some land in the country and moving there, I'd say buy enough to ensure your peace and tranquility.



I sometimes wonder if it's ever a good idea to disagree with someone on the internet. There are people who welcome an open exchange of views.  Most of the people who have blogs I visit daily do. But I also notice that sometimes it really irritates people if you say you disagree.  If people get nasty I just quit reading their blogs, though thankfully that has only happened a few times I can remember. I had so much trouble at the end of my last blog that I may be overly sensitive to the issue.  I feel like if you write a blog you have some responsibility to keep a rein on what goes on there. When I shut down the old Hermit blog, I'd lost control of it and started to feel like I'd created a monster.  If  I disagree with someone this time around I say so but I always try to be polite about it.



I sometimes think I am letting the women in my life have too much control.  I have never been an old testament husband.  My dad was that way, and I didn't particularly like that style of family organization. My wife's dad was that way, and I didn't care for the authoritarian figure role as a husband.  We have always done well with sharing decision making.  Like the guy in the magazine above, I do dishes and it doesn't fuss me any.

I do think, though, that sometimes my wife and my daughter gang up on me.  Moving to Florida to live in a condo is one of these instances. I don't want to go.  My daughter says if I stay here I will eventually get killed out in the woods or working on the place. Well, I might but that's better than winding up in Sunnyside Acres watching people play shuffleboard.  My wife says she came out here 30 years ago because I needed some time in a quiet place. But she says enough is enough and she wants to live at the beach in a town in our old age. That's reasonable but at the same time I know if you put me in a condo, a human ant nest, somebody will cross me sooner or later at a bad time and I'll wind up in jail. My girls mean well .  But I know women can manipulate you and control you without you even knowing they are doing it and I grow suspicious.

When I came back after a couple of days of not being on the computer much, I had 42 pieces of spam on the blog.  They were all that kind where people are pimping their commercial blogs. So I deleted them individually from my email, as I have to open each one to make sure it is not a real comment from an anonymous writer.  Then I had to open the template on my blog and empty the spam filter, which thankfully seems to catch most of them before they actually post.   That makes me so mad I could bite 10 penny nails in half. But I am not going to lose my anonymous commenters. Just today I got a good lead on a magazine I have been trying to track, from an anonymous reader.  Some of the people who have been commenting since I opened this blog are anonymous (they put their names in the comment).  Especially after all the reservations about speaking for attribution I just ran into trying to run down this import license thing, I realize more than ever how spooked people are about going on the sky line. No matter what human invention you talk about, some low life trash will figure out a way to corrupt it and twist it, and that's what spammers do. But there seems to be no help for it.

This is the kind of things you think about at 5:30 in the morning when you haven't slept long enough. I suppose this post is a rant.  It wasn't meant to be. Think of it more in terms of an early morning or late night one sided philosophical discussion.



29 comments:

  1. harry,
    hi. go with her in winter to florida--a place we lived and i wouldn't go back if you paid me; snakes, spiders the size of your hand, drunkards on the highway 24 hours a day, old people who should not be driving piloting the biggest cars they can find [ and you wonder whose driving cause you can't see a head in the driver's seat because they are too short to drive the big car].
    she can enjoy the winter sunshine.
    then back to civilization in the woods for spring and summer. florida is not pleasant in the summer.
    i have never seen such small ants. ants of every description are everywhere.
    and to think of you cooped up in a condo--cabin fever.
    where would the dogs and chickens and ferrets go?
    ask Jesus to find a reliable house-sitter for the winter and install him or her with full directions. there is a whole newspaper devoted to the hooking up of sitters with landowners. i've seen it advertized either in backwoods home mag or in countryside or both.
    it is time to let the wifely partner have a turn at picking a way of living that appeals to her, to be fair.
    it will all come out in the wash so don't fret or spend time worrying. look at it as a new adventure and enjoy as much as possible. God will provide.
    looking forward to your posts from florida.
    deb harvey

    p.s. i use 'anonymous' because i am not compute savvy and it is easier. thanks for keeping the anon. option.

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  2. Deb,

    We can't move for five years, until she retires, so I really shouldn't be getting all wrapped around the axle. I know she's entitled to some time where she wants to live. It's a good idea to get a sitter but who could I ever find that would keep the place up like I do? I have been talking to my son about moving back down here but he wants no part of it. Something will work out. We used to go down there pretty often and haven't been in some time. I think maybe if we made a few trips down for a week or so at a time she might be less anxious to move. The dogs and the ferrets and the cats are another issue, I'm not abandoning anybody and I'm not giving anybody away. It's a mess.

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    1. 5 years. you've got time.
      try the house-sitter research now to get a handle on it.
      it could work well.
      deb h.

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  3. Harry,

    (captaincrunch)

    Stay were your at or move to the Gulf Coast of Texas.

    Last time it snowed was December, 2004. It gets cold and rainy, hot and muggy, lots of hurricanes, mosquito's the size of Stuka dive bombers and lots of fat people on welfare (also the size of Stuka's)

    In the end, you gotta live the way you want to live or you will be miserable for life. Overall, I really like living here and I really, really like Texas but there always drawbacks. I would really, really love to live out in the boonies like you but I would have no place to surf at.

    Speaking of drawbacks, I got a house full of young Mexican males living right behind me with their 'boom' boom' boom' stereo's and yesterday I had one of their buddies that lives in the neighborhood try to "mad dog me" *(when a young wanna be alpha male trys to stare down another person) its some kinda Mexican alpha thing. I just stare back with no expression on my face. One day the same Mexican was trying to stare me down and I was on my way to the shooting range with an AR-15 in the truck. I did not do anything, but I did find the thought amusing that if he only knew that I carried 'the bigger stick"

    Now things are not as bad if you live in rural Texas for the most part. Texans are well armed and very property oriented in rural area's.

    I gotta mention too, If you lived near the coast of Texas (or in Florida) Hurricanes are an issue. Far as hurricanes go, my part of Texas is not hurricane prone as others. Don't get me wrong, I'm not hurricane proof, but Its not like living in Homestead, Florida or Jacksonville, Florida. Some places are magnets for storm activity.

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    1. Harry,

      (captaincrunch)

      forgot to mention, I got some serious burglar resistance built into my house. I figured that when I had this house built years ago and I also got one hell of an monitored alarm system. Far as break in's go, I would be a hard target and I'm working on another security upgrade. I don't dismiss the threat from the Mexicans in the house behind me. In fact they provide me with the 'stimuli' to be more aware of my surroundings and stay on my toes and not be complacent about security.

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    2. Odd that both instances in the last ten years where I had significant differences with people on the roads were of that persuasion. I don't want to live near that type of individual and really, I'm amazed you can put up with it. I have been to Padre Island, though it was in 1972 and I expect things have changed. I'd be ok with staying here, but the family issue is one I will have to work on.

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  4. I would not be happy about Florida either, so that is understandable. I'm a mid-east coast girl through and through. I enjoyed a brief 6 year stint in Texas, but these blue mountains are my home, and will always call me back.
    We have a bunch of snow this morning, and schools are closed. What a winter!

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    1. We had snow last night but it didn't stick. The area you are in is particularly scenic and I can understand why that's where you want to stay. I just need to work out some compromise that meets the expectations of everyone in the family. I'm sure over a five year period it will work out.

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  5. Florida wouldn't be for me. A nice place to visit for a short time, and I've been a lot. I'll keep Missouri even if it does snow. We've got lots of resources, no water problems, plenty of woods and unpopulated spaces plus, other than in the big cities, people tend to leave you alone as long as you are not hurting anyone.

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    1. Those are all things I like about North Georgia. I like Florida and enjoy our visits there but I am not sure it's the place to live on a full time basis, especially in one of the towns on the coast. Even without any unforeseen difficulties Florida has a bad time with overpopulation, water issues, and the fact that it has so many distinct ethnic groups which don't assimilate and come into conflict with one another.

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  6. I don't always agree with people, but it's America...everyone is free to spill out what they think, vent, or whatever. I happen to enjoy other perspectives.

    My co-workers like to have heated discussions at lunch time. 2 are Born Again Christians, 1 is Jewish, and the other is an Atheist. Yesterday I knew it was going to be a rough discussion. I quickly found a way to change the conversation. I usually embrace differences, but the Born Again Christians try to convert the Jewish lady, and it's really not happening. Peace of mind is what I needed at the moment.

    BTW the bum story was on the news this morning. The guy gave him a $1000 out of the kindness of his heart. He didn't want to just hand it over. He wanted the bum to feel like it didn't come out of his pocket. That's why he did the lottery bit. Sometimes it's easier to accept something when you don't know where it's coming from. The Pay it Forward Movement is great!

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    1. That makes me feel a lot better about the hobo. I was afraid it was some kind of mean trick, and at the last moment the perpetrator changed his mind. That would be much more in keeping with the general state of things than someone just giving money to help another person. I have not heard of the "Pay it Forward" movement but if it is philanthropic I certainly approve.

      I like discussing things with others on line, but there are some people who get very aggressive or defensive when you don't agree with them. They represent a particularly pernicious factor because I have to watch myself. I don't want to respond in kind but that's my natural inclination. I almost never talk about religion. That's just a no win situation.

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  7. Hey Harry, not dead here, yet. But between illness and work, I can see the grave from here, lol.
    I too dislike dealing with the general public, even the banal spoken pleasantries most people engage in.
    Some say the anonymity of the internet allows people to be jerks, I think it magnifies their jerkness.
    I enjoy a thoughtfull disagreement with a knowledgeable person, I see it as a chnce to learn even if I don't change my mind.
    As far as the hermit blog. A friend and I were readers and at about the same time "hermit" disappeared there was a story of some fellas being arrested for "not thinking well" of their gubmint. We were woried that you had somehow got caught in some crossfire there by saying hello to the wrong person.
    Glad you weren't.

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    1. I'm glad you aren't dead, I was beginning to wonder. The internet lets people act outside the bounds of normal behavior because they think they can do it and nobody can find them. That's not true, but the effect is the same. The same guy who would start yelling in a bar if you didn't think his football team was "the best" is going to act exactly the same way on line.

      I shut down the hermit blog because people started going at each other. Not many, but it doesn't take many. Blogging can be a considerable effort to maintain, and doing it to provide a forum for others to call each other nasty names and threaten to sue each other is not a viable option. There were some other issues as well but the loss of control was the main one. I figure if the government wants to get me for being derogatory about them, they can do that. Of course, they can do it to anyone so I don't worry much about it. I think if they were they would have done it back in the nineties, when I was involved in a peripheral manner, through The Shooting Show and Johnny Rowland, with the Christian Identity Movement and some others Morris Dee would wet himself over. These days I suppose I would just be viewed as a verbose senior and not much of a threat.

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  8. Well Harry as you know I don't sugar coat one damned thing. In fact it is my opinion that the loss of the authoritative attitude you mention your father flavors as having is the very reason we are in the mess we are in. It is pretty easy to see the loveable and beautiful females of our particular race are liberal (for your own good but better for us yet we won't tell you that) minded. Individually it isn't a problem and many women in fact are not liberal singly but as a whole it simply spells disaster.

    I do find it very irritating that men, especially those from the Baby boomer period, are so spineless about social issues. It's just a never ending surrendering of rights and gender authority. Almost a complete rout while the men in the younger generations just can't figure out why no one fought back.

    There is some big reason as to why the Mens' rights movement is made up almost entirely of those 50 and under I think. Something is just different there.

    As for the Florida thing well five years is a long way off and I seriously doubt it is going to be an option to worry about come then. Of course they may start offering early retirements before this year is finished so it could become an issue to. I don't see how it's going to work with your particular animal sentimental streak though honestly. That is going to be a problem.

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    1. I know we don't see eye to eye on how to structure a family. I'm not sure I really understand the relationship you have with your wife in terms of how you make decisions that effect everybody. I looked at, and still look at, marriage as a partnership without a junior partner. There have been times when I went along with a program that I didn't agree with, when I could have just said "no, we aren't doing that." But I am not always right, sometimes my wife is. So I don't rule the roost by diktat.

      Politically, I can think of a good conservative woman for every Diane Feinstein or Nancy Pelosi. For every Hillary there's a Margaret Thatcher or a Golda Meir. But because the press is controlled by the left, the liberal thinkers get all the press.

      I know what gender authority is . It permeates the Southern Protestant churches and for both sexes if individuals choose to live that way, I have no problem with it. But that is based on religion, I'm not religious, and I don't see that fact that people lived that way in the time of Moses is relevant to today.

      So we disagree on that, but I have no problem with it because we do so on a civilized basis. There are some people who are not capable of hearing that others don't toe their line, and those are the folks I hold in low regard.

      Besides, I like reading about your bees.

      I've asked my wife what we are going to do about the animals. She says the ferrets will all have passed away by then due to age, and I should't get any more. But I said, and she knows, that if other ferrets needing a home turn up we will take them. So she says we can take them to Florida. But ferrets would tear an apartment to pieces in short order. She says her sister will take my dogs, but that's not happening. I'm not really sentimental about animals, I just like them. I don't like most people. What can I say? As a race human beings are at the bottom of the barrel, although there are good ones. They are just vastly outnumbered by the bad ones.

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    2. Well you might be able to match a conservative woman per liberal loon to some degree but the actual voting demographics paint a much different picture. Either you need to get out more or someone is lying about their true political leanings :)

      I also wonder if you really do know what gender authority is or always was. Seriously do you think it was men who enforced the rules women, especially young women lived by back in what they call the bad ol days? A young female is singularly the most destabilizing force in human culture and one way or another it is almost always the older females out to control them otherwise it is that groups influence that suffers the most. I also don't think it was singularly a religious thing since that type of control spans many different religions and cultures. It was almost a necessity for a society to function and we are seeing what happens when it degrades.

      I will ask you this. Back when you were a child and the young Women were chaperoned what was the gender/age make up of those chaperones?

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    3. The issue of chaperoning , etc is cultural. Cultures change, so do the rules.

      I would have thought, based on my own experience, that young men were far more disruptive during adolescence than girls. The classical Greeks thought along similar lines as yours, and they locked their women up in the gynaeceum to try to "protect" society but I'm not sure they were on the right track.

      I don't agree that you can pin the problems society is having today on how young women are raised. That seems far too facile an answer to a complex question.

      To answer your question, I don't remember girls being chaperoned on dates in the 1950's. Parents were careful who their daughters went out with, and the dates took place within fairly tightly defined conditions, but granny wasn't riding along in the back seat of your 55 Chevy.

      Incidentally, I'll agree with one thing. Religions all seem so similar to me that I tend to think of them all as "Religion" , in a lump, unless the conversation is specifically about religion or some aspect there of, where you have to differentiate.

      You and I are worlds apart in how we see things, but I don't feel like that is particularly important, since we also share some core values.

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    4. OK. Let's evaluate Young men can be disruptive yes, especially in groups but young Women now there is a segment that can gain favor far above their means, ability and experience level just by being present. The older women used to know this and kept a lid on it. Lately all they do is direct it to make their own interests stronger and rely on the government to control the side effects.

      Also c'mon when young women traveled in groups they had chaperones even in the 70's. Your purposefully missing the point by saying they didn't have any on dates. Those chaperones were always old women or older women, not men. Men were all about the girls breaking the rules. Except for Daddy I guess.

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    5. Not purposely. I thought you were talking about dates. I'm sure that when they travel in church groups, 4H groups, etc that the teachers, counselors, or whatever go with them.

      Hell, you don't have to tell me about younger women and what they can accomplish. Remember, I got "retired" at 20 years so my 75 year old boss could leach on a 35 year old woman with big boobies to whom he gave my department and my accounts! I know women can pull the strings and get what they want. I just don't think that every problem we have got can be attributed to women.

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    6. Every problem we have now can be attributed to Feminism however. So in a sense yes it can but they had the help of Men of course. Those who capitulated anyway for one reason or another. Like your boss.

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  9. hmmmm do you have to go to Florida is there no where closer to where you are? what about the west coast some where?

    sometimes men need gentle coaxing (as we can get stuck in a groove) but it should always be a joint decision. except for when it come to the colour on the walls and curtains! lol

    I agree with preppy pioneer, some of my friends husbands tend to be more traditional. I am extremely lucky, we have very close ideals. I know I am indulged.

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    1. Sol, my wife really loves Florida. She likes nice shops, and big grocery stores, and little restaurants and cafes. She likes to look for shells, and walk on the beach. She likes all the things there are to do, and places to go, in Florida. Also she likes the idea of either living in a condo or apartments because there is no maintenance. I have had a couple of bad experiences up here when there were accidents as I was working on the house. She says she is tired of worrying that she'll come home some day and find I've fallen off the roof or gotten electrocuted. We like Tybee Island, but it's too expensive for us to live there permanently. The West Coast, California, Oregon, and Washington State, are way too liberal in nature for me to live there, and they are a long way off. Florida is close enough that I could rent a U Haul and take our things down there.

      You have a good philosophy there. I yield the floor on interior decorating. Women can be very clever and they can rule from behind the throne if they want to. I know my wife and my daughter have gotten me to do things I would never have done if they had not finagled me into doing them. For instance, trading in my wonderful little Jeep Wrangler, for a huge land battleship of a Jeep Commander.

      My wife started out as a very traditional Southern Baptist woman, almost a carbon copy of her mom, who was totally subservient to my father in law (but weren't we all?) I opened Pandora's Box by virtually forcing her to be part of our decision making process right from the start of our marriage. I did not want to be a clone of my father in that or other respects. All in all, though I don't regret it. She's more practical, less emotional, and better balanced overall than I am. She is more intelligent than I am. There are things where I do better (like book keeping and financial management) and things that she does better (long term planning) but we compliment each other and working as a team we have done well. Sometimes we have made mistakes but not that often.

      I figure, whatever works for a couple is what they ought to do. If the traditional submissive wife make both people happy, then they are fortunate and should live that way. If some other allocation of responsibilities and duties works for someone, then more power to them. The key concept is making the relationship work.

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  10. We always get the sunbirds up here in Idaho from Arizona in the summer. Seems to work out OK for everybody. Why not just spend the winters in Florida, and just about the time you are ready to kill someone you can head back to the mountain for the fall/winter. Sounds like a good compromise to me. --Troy

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    1. I think I might could do something like that if I can work out taking care of the house here, or if I sell this property and just get a small place up here that is low maintenance. But to tell the truth, if I sell my "compound" on the mountain top, I don't expect I'd stay here. I'd rather have a place out where you are, and my brother is already there part of the year.

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  11. I miss roosters....you'd hate the beach life in my neck of the woods. It's so friggin crowded. I live on the river where at least I need not deal with the thousands of parked cars and police patrols. We have our share of gawkers but they're harmless.

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    1. When the kids were there and we would visit, they would take us out to a pretty nice park in your area. I don't know what the name was, but it was about thirty minutes to the park from their apartment. I want to live closer than that if I go to the beach, I'd like to be either right on it or only a block back at most. Living on the river would be nice. I have about six roosters I could do without, I should send them down to you. ;-)

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  12. Today my daughter was without a daiper for maybe 2 mi utesnand dropped a turd on the floor. The Mrs was on my case half the day. They are clearlyplotting against me.

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    1. I changed diapers too. I also got up at 0300 and walked the floor with the babies so my wife could get some sleep, even though I had to get to the base for PT by 0600. It was more about mutual survival than anything else.

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