“There is no real ending. It’s just the place where you stop the story.”

― Frank Herbert

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

"It was that kind of day, when every cat one strokes flies in one's face"



I can't remember where that quote came from, but everyone has days like that.

I watched the sunrise today on a web camera, because there was a cold wind blowing and when I went out on the porch it was just too chilly. Seems strange to do that but it works. I always look at the sunrise on the beach at Tybee Island the same way every morning anyway.

Went through my list of blogs I read and thinned it out a bit.  There were a lot of them that aren't posting anymore, and haven't for a long time, so it seemed pointless to keep them on there. A lot of people who used to blog regularly have just quit.  I read somewhere that advances in social media have largely made blogging obsolete, and it's declining as a result. I don't know anything about that, but I do know there aren't as many writing as used to. At least in my areas of interest.

Set out for the waterfall but turned around and came back about half way there. I guess I'll have to start taking the truck and using the old forest service road.  This morning it was too cold, and that makes the joints uncomfortable. The dogs were puzzled, they knew where we were going and they like the waterfall, didn't want to turn around and go back home. They can ride in the back of the truck next time.

I had an email from a friend, who was thinning out his gun collection. He had some nice pieces, and it was a good opportunity to add to my collection. Unfortunately, I'm not supposed to do that anymore as my wife and kids have concerns about handling all that when I croak.  It seem morbid to be preparing for when you are not around anymore, but then it would be foolish not to. You don't want to leave a big mess for your kids to have to sort out.  When you get older, sometimes you are torn between wanting to just go on along like you always have, and the knowledge that you need to start wrapping things up to some extent. It's not morbid, it's just good planning. Prior planning prevents poor performance, as the saying goes.




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  1. I don't think blogs are obsolete, I think people are just too flighty to sit and read anymore. Thinking people still read them. Non-thinking people got to social media.

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    1. Well said sir, I don't do Facebook or Tweet, but have a niece and nephew who do. Most of the people they 'follow' (??) seem to be very self absorbed with the way they look. The type of person who takes five photos of their family vacation, but 27 photos of themselves eating at Logan's Saturday night . . .

      I really enjoy reading bloggers posts. Much more content and its been a great learning experience. I couldn't do it myself - I'd run out of words quickly.

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    2. The blog is a kind of journal, and in my case I keep it for my own personal record as well as a way to communicate with friends. Since I don't mix with people socially , largely due to a desire for privacy and peace, if it wasn't for blogging I wouldn't have any human interaction at all. Except maybe at the grocery store check out counter. I read about some of the misadventures people have with neighbors and coworkers and I just shudder. I'm sure I'd be in prison for murder if I had to cope with some of those things.

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  2. I'm in the same spot. I see the light at the end of a now very short tunnel and it is the train! So I've been thinning out my stable and some tools I no longer have a need for because I have no one to leave them to. Otherwise I see her having a garage sale and getting a penny on the dollar for thousands of $$ in guns I've accumulated. That would make me roll over in my urn.
    I do know a couple who live in Canada that would appreciate them but to ship guns into Canada it would be a safer bet that obama will quit tomorrow!

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    1. Mike buddy - we appreciate the sentiment! much love to you and yours always!

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    2. Hey Kymber,

      (captaincrunch)

      When I 'Kick the Bucket' Kymber.

      I'm gonna send you a 'Sling Shot'

      (really, maybe this spring I will send you and your hubby a couple of t-shirts from the best surf shop on the planet)

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    3. you know i am gonna hold you to that, mister crunch! much love buddy!

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    4. Mike, I think all people start doing that as they get older. When my grandmother (who was born in 1905) started getting less mobile (she lived to be 97) she gave away many of her treasures to her kids and their kids. She told me she wanted to be sure they went to the people she wanted them to go to. My dad passed away some years back and my mom is 87. About a year ago, she started sending me old family news clippings, mementos, and some of the things my dad collected over his life , like Western belt buckles. My wife has expressed concern about what happens to my collection if and when we move to a condo in Florida, and she thinks it is unfair for me to dump disposing of the collection on my son in the event I unexpectedly transpire. I like collecting, and I'm still alive, so I am inclined to add a gun now and then though my World War I and World War II pieces pretty well cover the important firearms of that period other than automatic. I do see her point though so I haven't been buying new guns. Nor, I confess, have I been selling them since I never really sold or traded guns, and I like what I have. It's a fine line to walk between maintaining quality of life and unfairly burdening your family at the time of your demise.

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  3. I think the blogging heyday is probably over. It isn't the same but I still enjoy it.

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    1. Some of the best bloggers I read, like Stephen at "Standing outside looking in" have just disappeared from the scene. Others, who used to be general subject bloggers, have now refined their writing to very specific subjects which aren't actually something I follow very much. Some just quit. There are still lots of good blogs to read, but I think you are probably right, most people do all this twitter and such now and don't have the time or inclination to do any serious writing.

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  4. I discovered yesterday that Blogger is not adding some peoples blog posts into my Blog feed. In fact when I clicked on them it said it couldn't pick up their feed. Yet I had no problem visiting their blogs. Really made me mad, because I though that these people had given up blogging. A couple of these people it hasn't picked up their post in over a year.
    So my point in this story is double check before deleting. Blogger is a jerk.
    Kimberly

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    1. Kim, I couldn't agree with you more .I have been using blogger for many year and it is far from perfect. I tried Word Press once but it was just as bad, and I can't see myself learning how to use a new program since it took me years to get conversant with blogger, and there are still a lot of things I don't know how to do with it. Especially since they added all this circles stuff, and little bells that show up on your blog, etc. I usually click on my list if someone gets two or three weeks without a post, just to check, and so far I haven't had the problem you are running into, although absolutely nothing blogger does would surprise me.

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  5. I feel that blogging will pick up come election time, as everyone will post their opinion. i too have dropped blogs if I feel that they are not worthy of my time. Some of the good ones have gone quite, like Duke and Stephen has his plate full. Everyone thought that the world was going to collapse when Obama came to power and it didn't happen. he is just another bad president.

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    1. Duke is one I used to to read before he went off the radar. Stephen is a good one, he posted something a few weeks ago but nothing after that. I wonder if the world hasn't collapsed, when I think about it. Considering all that's happened since Obama took power I think we could make a good case for saying it has. The overall effects just haven't trickled down to people like you and me, but they will. Maybe I am being overly pessimistic.

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  6. Except .... I have made some really good friends that I would gladly help in any situation!!!

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    1. That is very true. It's also more distressing when they just drop off the air, because you don't know what happened and you may never find out.

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  7. Hey Harry,

    (captaincrunch)


    I would not focus on the end of the road 'Harry.

    It comes for everyone and we may as well enjoy the ride to we get there.

    You got it all 'Harry and I would focus on living. Spring will arrive soon enough and you can fire up that wonderful old diesel truck and head to that waterfall and other spots. I want to hear more stories of those Indian .308 Enfield's (I forgot the name of them) Maybe do a rifle shoot of the week with pic's and descriptions of the rifles being shot so us 'kids' learn a thing or two.

    I got many friends that are much older than I am. I take the time to listen to their stories even if I heard the same story six times already and I know the outcome. Its interesting because I have been kinda invited into a group of old' timers (the types that used to hang out in front of Barber Shops in small towns) I guess they like me because I listen.
    I listen their years and years of wisdom so I hopefully will see things from different point of view and make 'wiser decisions' in my own affairs.

    I kinda view your blog as that way. I listen and learn stuff and that keeps it interesting (and Harry you don't have permission to 'Kick the Bucket" for at least another 30 years)

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    1. I don't mean to give the wrong impression. I enjoy life and just sort of meander through it at this stage. But, it's true that you do need to have your planning done for end game, including a valid will, having your debts paid off, having enough put away for whatever funeral games you favor. I also think a person shouldn't leave problems for their family members to solve. Everything should be wrapped up neat and tidy, since a death in the family is traumatic enough. I know if my wife and I are still living on the mountain when I go, she'll be out of here like a shot. The less she has to deal with in that event, the better for all concerned.

      A lot of the guys I went to college with, or served with, are gone now. When you see that start happening, it's time to do some prior planning.

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  8. Harry - when it's too cold i don't even get in the hottub - i know...hard to believe eh? but i figure i am warm in the house and there is no need to freeze my butt off getting warm in the hottub...it does make actual sense (well maybe if you follow captain crunch's way of thinking about stuff - bahahahahahah!). and hey - aren't you supposed to be writing a novel???? you better get on that before you decide to kick the bucket. i mean it buddy!

    i love that ferret pic...i love all the ferret pics! much love to you and yours, always! your friend,
    kymber

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    1. The ferrets are good role models. They have short life spans but they enjoy every day and they never worry about anything.

      I don't plan on going anywhere for a while. I just want to have my ducks in a row for when I do.

      Cold is not fun. Neither is being too hot. Since the mountains are always one or the other, I guess I picked a bad place to settle , on that score at least.

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  9. I'm visiting and staying with my dad at a retirement village in FL. People have stripped their lives down to the basics by the time they get here. Most of what's left when someone passes goes to the dumpster.

    Dad had gotten rid of almost all his guns by the time he got here. However, he's been collecting again. Hard habit to break. Then again, at 79 he just remarried so maybe he's good for many more turns around the wheel.

    My lovely wife and I have been thinning out our stuff. Giving a few things to the kids. Not sure what we'll do with all the thousands of books. Not ready to unload the house yet -unless my wife changes her mind about living full time on a sailboat.

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    1. My mom lives in a retirement village in California. She and my dad moved from a large home on acreage in the foothills of the Sierra Nevadas to a little two bedroom, two bath cottage in a "gated community" for seniors. She didn't keep much of what was in the old house.

      I don't think any of the men in my family, as long as anybody can trace back (which is to 1742) ever lived past 85. That sounds good except they start going senile a lot earlier than that. :-(

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  10. hi harry,
    only learned computering -very basic- this year.
    i love blogs but only follow a few, yours is one.
    then i discovered i could write comments!!
    bloggers have not been safe from me since!

    i have learned much from the comments section of the survivalist blog , for one. canning recipes, medicines, almost anything you can think of.
    i love your blog and your ferrets, too.

    i have started seriously thinking about the end of the road just this week. my mom is soon to be 90 and has alzheimer's disease.
    we have one child with a chronic illness so i am thinking how we can be less of a burden to her, if possible.
    taking care of mom, even with 5 day daycare from the lovely antonine nuns is wearing us out. one person must be up and available all night every night to head mom off at the pass.

    my husband turned 70 today and has been in mourning.
    i am starting to try organizing which i haven't done since we moved 7 years ago. what a mess. my excuse is that i spent the first day we were here in the emergency room, which is where i spent last friday night, too. time flies when you are having fun!
    the goal is to get rid of much, repair or replace the needful, and organize it so it can be used .
    every time we move i end up buying a new can opener and garlic press because i can never remember where i packed them.

    who knows how many i will find on this quest to become clean, neat , and organized?
    i may open a garlic press emporium.

    my other plan is to be out of debt in 3 years so we can live on what we get when the economy gets worse.

    i put those real daylight bulbs in the lamps because the winter doldrums were coming upon mom but they are good for anyone in the winter or anyone who lives in one of the heavy cloud cover states.
    if you are feeling a bit under the weather try those bulbs in your reading lamp, sublingual vitamin B, and maybe some st. john's wort. [avoid sun on skin in summer if taking st. john's wort but you shouldn't need it then anyway].

    looking forward to your next post!

    deb h.

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    1. Hey deb,

      I think it's just good sense to take a look at what happens after you go when you have family. Some things you can do to make it easier, some things just have to work themselves out on their own.

      Getting out of debt is a good idea. It gives you freedom , nobody can push you around, and it won't leave issues for your kids to deal with.

      I have not heard of real daylight bulbs, but I will look into it the next time I am at Home Depot.

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  11. When my grandmother (hoarder-ish) passsed three households had to travel several times to clean out her home. She was 100 so there was a lot of stuff in the house, even old prom dresses of my mothers, shoes, purses, things left over from their drugstore and old clothing store. She kept everything from her relatives and anyone else that was giving things away. The family hated it, everyone except me. I loved going through room by room, things tucked away in the attic, old toys, old letters, photos. I really didn't even mind cleaning out old dead mice (DeCon sort of mummifies them), it was worth finding the treasures that were stored for years.

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    1. My grandparents were depression era adults. As a result, my grandmother (on my dads side) did not trust banks for the rest of her life. When she died in the 1970's, she had stacks of old magazines in one of the rooms of the house. We were going to throw them all away, but my dad thumbed through one and found $20.00 bills carefully stored away between the pages. That was her bank and the magazines had a small fortune in cash hidden away there.

      There were lots of things in the old house from World War II, and there was also a 2nd generation colt single action army revolver. Alas for me, I was not in the country and didn't get any of that stuff!

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  12. Harry - I've also had a clean up of my blog lists - such a shame when really good blogs just stop posting... :(

    As for your "morbidness" - when my mother-in-law passed away the amount of clutter which had to be sorted had to be seen to be believed. I vowed that I would leave the minimum of sorting out for my kids to do when I left this mortal coil. It's only fair. If I can't decide - why should they have to be the ones to decide what is important / unimportant?

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    1. Dani, those are my sentiments. Years ago, there used to be an elderly woman who wrote a little column for the Atlanta Journal Constitution. She was a nice person. Two of her older friends passed away, and she went to the estate sales. I don't know if they have those in South Africa, but here you can have an estate sale and just put everything you don't want from the deceased persons home on sale. The lady that wrote the articles knew the people who died very well, and she said it was so sad to go to the estate sale and see their little personal treasures sitting there on tables, for a quarter or a dime. I remember reading that and thinking that when the time came I would do all I could to prevent that from happening. We have some nice things we bought all over the world, and those are all going to my two kids.

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  13. Harry,

    A couple of times a year I go through my blog roll and remove blogs which have gone stagnant. I do keep an eye out, and if I see a friend return to blogging I will reload their blog on my blog roll.

    After dealing with my dad's estate, and dealing with the legal aggravation of my sick mom's medical planning and estate. I recommend to everyone, please create a will, and have all of your legal papers complete and together. Along with your final wishes (burial, cremation). Make life easier on the remaining spouse, and or your children.

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    1. Sandy, I did a reply to your comment but it didn't post. I just saw that.

      I agree 100 percent with what you said about the will, and other effects. I need to have my will updated to fine tune a few things, and then I think we will be in pretty good shape for the future.

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  14. I miss Tybee Island. I liked that place!

    I need to thin out my list as well. I'd also love to do a blog update design wise, and get a URL. I'm nervous about doing that though. I feel like I might mess everything up.

    I can understand your wife and kids being nervous about the guns. They are good, but also dangerous. Just this week I've heard about a toddler getting in a car, and getting a gun out of their glove box. They shot themselves dead. That happened in Florida. Here a 5 year old was at their grandparent's house, found a gun, and shot their baby sister dead. Guns are great to have around for protection, but if one is young, or doesn't know how to handle them they can be very dangerous.

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    1. Guns are like chain saws. Great tools but you have to know how to use them and a moment's carelessness rarely goes unpunished.

      I love Tybee island. It still has that "Cannery Row" feel to it. So peaceful,especially in winter.

      I never thought of getting my own URL but I know some people who have and it has seemed to work out well for them.

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    2. I should point out my family is concerned about having to dispose of my collection. They are all comfortable with guns and all had concealed carry permits when they lived in Georgia. My wife let hers expire and never renewed it.

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  15. Getting rid of our 'can't live without it' is not a pleasant thought, but we have to make it clear to our survivors is that it makes US happy. After we are gone, its okay to sell or give them away. I think its mainly the guilt factor (Gosh, Dad would hate to see me selling all his stuff!) but we have to get over that.

    What my bosses family solution was of disposing of the estate for his Mom. Each family member had a choice of picking out two items for their personal keepsake. They were allowed to trade with the others if they chose to. All clotheing and kitchenware were donated to Salvation Army. The rest was put into a hole that was dug with a bulldozer and burned. The house and property were sold - done.

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    1. There's just my wife, myself, and our two kids. We have a daughter and a son, so dividing up things tends to go along gender lines. Fortunately, neither of the kids seem to want the same things. We have already started transferring items like the family china and silver to my daughter, and some of the guns have moved to my son already although he is not a collector like I was.

      I'm sure our furniture will go the the Salvation Army, which is a shame because some of it is good quality antiques. But the logistics of moving big and bulky items from here to the kids homes will preclude doing much of that.

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